This is the third blog in our C.O.R.E. series —Relate.
When we’re listening, we want to stay dialed in to the person we’re listening to. We want to make eye contact if we are are we can see them (if you're on the phone, that doesn't apply) and we want them to know we not only see them and hear them—we want them to know they really do matter to us.
We want to be sure we’re relating to where THEY are emotionally—what they are feeling. If they aren’t able to name their feeling, you can use the feeling word list at the Center for Non-Violent Communication's site (the link is on HOLD's resource page) to help with that.
Resist the urge to be pulled away from your center. The earlier calm you established has to stay in place when you’re relating. Each piece of the C.O.R.E. holds it together – if you lose one of them, you no longer have a core.
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