One of the things caring people tend to want to do is – help. To fix, to solve the problems. And in some contexts, that’s a great thing. But when someone is venting, they may not want solutions. There may even not be viable solutions. And if they don’t want advice, giving it may do the opposite of what we want – it may make them feel like their feelings aren’t valid, that they are broken and at fault. Of course, when a person asks for advice, if you have any, suggest it. But when they don’t – listen without fixing. Just hear them, feel with them, reflect with them. But keep any ideas to solve to yourself.
So, keep yourself and your person from getting unglued - no fixing unless asked.
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